By JUMI RHODES
Psychologist-cum-businessman Adejoro Olumofin is famous on the social media for tackling various relationship/marital issues via his Instagram timeline “joroolumofin”. Today, he shared Part 1 of the 3-part email he just received from a Nigerian lady.
Below is the email as sent by the lady to Olumofin:
Subject: I have carried this burden for 17 years
First of all, I’m one of your biggest supporters. I love you and what you do. It’s time for me to share. I don’t want to start my life with a lie. Please I need your advice, you can share too. All advise is key. I lost my virginity to my father when I was 15, he used to drink heavily and beat my mom up then. My mom left the country to U.K. to start afresh and also for financial stability. I blame my mom for leaving me behind here with him but I couldn’t blame her. The embassy wouldn’t grant me and my brother and sister visa at that time. Over the years, I developed a love relationship with my father, first it was rape but later I loved him. I loved his feel inside me. During mid-term breaks I looked forward to going home to see him. We would make love all through. I even discouraged my mother when she wanted to come back. I was my father’s girl.
This revelation has started generating comments on Olumofin’s Instagram timeline:
aanuinthecity: This is sad. This woman needs counselling 💔 Her father took advantage of her & he should be locked up. It’s sad that she is in Nigeria, because victims that come out are always blamed. Psychology her Dad is all she knows, so she feels this is normal, the abuse has gone one for years & she is even saying she doesn’t blame her Dad or Mum, she will start blaming herself, when it was her mum and dad that should have been taking care of her. May God have mercy on these parents, it is not the girls fault & this is such a common thing in Nigeria, fathers, uncles, brothers, molest children. It’s absolutely disgusting and an abomination. Please, seek help, practical help, when you are healed, you can then forgive everyone envolved and live a happy life, but this will scar you & that’s why it’s such a sad scenario. Adults *SMH* Children are not asked to be born, God has put these children in your care & you abuse them? God have Mercy.
peculiar_stacy@lohlah_creations: The girl is not to be blamed.. its her psychotic dad who took her innocence. Wen a girl is abused at such age she need psychological help or rather God’s help to view life in a reasonable way. Her line of thought has been altered. You cant even trust a dad with their daughters dis days.. end time .. its so sad
lohlah_creations: Are u sure he is ur pops cos girl u need deliverance
magicmarabel: Oh Lord save your children. This is so saddening
itsschellie@didi_promcy: This is the real Stockholm syndrome
sherriesilver@peculiar_stacy: you said it right, it’s incredibly sad that you can’t trust a dad and some mothers with their kids these days. Instead of protecting her, his exploiting her. I hope she doesn’t get peignant for him. Lord have mercy on us
nuella_o: See me here thinking I have issues….na wa
aquarius_dva: A father who is meant to protect his daughter is the one defiling her. It’s just so sad.