By JUMI RHODES
Sheikh Muyideen Bello is one of Nigeria’s highly-revered Islamic clerics. He speaks truth to power with his tough sermons on various subjects. In one of his lectures titled Legal Marriage, Sheikh Bello speaks about why a man should marry more than 1 wife. According to Sheikh Bello, “Allah said a man should marry any kind of woman he likes. As a man, if you want to marry a fair-complexioned or dark woman, marry her. Allah said we should start from 2 women. I know women will not like to hear this. If you have to marry, start with 2 women, that is what the Quran says. The Yorubas have a saying that a man with 1 woman isn’t a real man. For instance if you are married to 1 wife and you’re angry she over-salted your food, you have just 1 wife. You don’t have a choice than to eat the food or buy food outside. But if you have another wife, she would ensure she fixes the wrong of the first one.
“I have received so many messages from people that why should I encourage polygamy. I tell them, is it me encouraging polygamy? Allah said you should marry 2, 3, 4. Allah said if as a man you know you can’t take care of them, then marry 1. Then if you are a me-my-wife kind of man, the implications are too many. As Muslims, 4 women is the maximum a man can have, have 2 living with you then if you have 2 houses outside, you put the other 2 there. The implications in marrying just 1 wife are too many.If you can afford it, you build a house for each of your wives. After-all they won’t see one another, so you will be the only one facing them. But if you can’t afford this luxury, you have to be a me-and-my-1- wife husband.”